𝓢𝓸𝓵𝓲𝓽𝓾𝓭𝓮

Romantic love - is it for everyone? I would argue otherwise. While it is often upheld as society’s norm, with many aspiring to marriage, family, and the continuation of their lineage, I question its necessity. Undoubtedly, romantic love is one of life's most beautiful experiences, but is it essential for everyone?

I have always found peace in my own solitude, relishing my own presence and finding happiness in who I am. I take pleasure in caring and carrying for myself like a Goddess, indulging in whatever my heart desires, and embracing the best that life has to offer. I am the lover I wish to have. Self-development and daily growth are my nirvana.

My views have drastically changed as I spent more time alone with my thoughts. It was through solitude that I discovered an inner peace and gratitude I hadn't known existed. During my time alone, through deep contemplation, I unearthed my most important personal philosophies, which had been buried beneath the superficial distractions that hold little true value in life.

I view people as experiences—each one, whether positive or negative, adds to the tapestry of life. I cherish the good individuals and do not let the negative ones affect me. I am grateful for all encounters, as each person brings a unique lesson and contributes to my growth. It is these varied experiences that make life truly beautiful.

I finally understood my life's purpose and crafted my own mission statement. It was through this isolation that I began to cultivate a deep inner confidence, empowering me to confront some of my deepest fears.

It took me 23 years to realize that my clearest, deepest, and most creative thoughts emerge when I am completely relaxed and, most importantly, focused without any distractions. Solitude fosters a relaxed and focused mind.

Love is a choice and a leap of faith, it not only requires bravery and willingness to take risks but also humility and strength only in the matters of heart we truly genuinely lack any control. It is not for everyone. Losing someone you love is probably the worst pain one can go through but that pain and humility that comes with it is the only thing that can make you fully human. It is understandable that most people want to avoid it all together and opt out for adoration. Aromatic is a def thing. Romantic love is a bit overrated, overblown and over-imagined in movies. Just be content with yourself first before anything else.

I recognize that humans are inherently social beings. Our longevity and mental well-being greatly benefit from being in the company of others. This understanding is deeply rooted in my own beliefs, and I am at peace with it. I don't internalize the actions or words of others, as they do not define my character.

I find satisfaction in picking up new hobbies to ignite the passion in my heart. I strive to thrive and excel in everything I do, and I couldn't be prouder of myself.

I carry myself with the grace and pride of royalty, embracing my being with confidence and sass. I no longer crave companionship as much as I did in my younger years. I know I am a fantastic lover because I love others as deeply as I love myself. Embracing a carefree attitude and not taking myself too seriously are key to my happiness.

Seclusion is not always enjoyable. Sometimes, I find myself daydreaming while savoring a Venchi gelato in a pretty tight dress showing off my bosoms and black Louboutin pumps sitting by the stairs amidst the crowd at Marina Bay. My solitude occasionally dampens my gratitude for these experiences. However, during these times of isolation, I employ subconscious practices to try and fill the emptiness.

The ease I feel when greeting and interacting with familiar baristas exemplifies what Joe Keohane labels as "weak ties" in his book The Power of Strangers. Through an experiment involving varying levels of acquaintance interaction, Keohane states, "people were happier on days they had more weak-tie interactions than on days when they had fewer."

If I were to entertain the idea of a companion—which I must admit is neither a priority nor a frequent consideration—I would seek a partner who embodies the essence of gender polarity. As a deeply feminine woman, I am naturally drawn to a masculine counterpart. Equally vital are shared values, goals, and a similar mindset. Perhaps what I am meant for transcends this realm and lifetime, and I am at peace with that. With myself as my constant, I will never truly be without.

For me, it's all or nothing. I trust that the Universe provides what we truly deserve, and my life has consistently surpassed my wildest dreams. Thus, in matters of companionship, I will either find someone who completely captivates me or continue to find fulfillment within myself.

One thing is certain: I will always embrace my beauty and strive for happiness. I cherish what life has to offer and am committed to eliminating unnecessary distractions. Life is too short for unhappiness or struggle; we must make the most of it.